So I'm 18 and I wanted to lose my virginity before I go to college in the fall. One of my close guy friends offered to do it with me. The idea was its better to have my first time with someone I trust in a comfortable place than to have my first time with someone I barely know in a tiny dorm bed. I want to do it but I don't know if it's a good idea. He said he can't promise exclusivity and I think it's because he just broke up with his girlfriend but she still wants to have sex with him.

If you have any amount of hesitation and doubt about this and don’t think it’s a good idea, then it’s probably not. Simple as that. Your heart knows when you don’t want to do something and that little bit of hesitation and doubt is your intuitions way of saying you probably shouldn’t do the thing, you’ll regret it. Just like I was saying in the last ask, you should never rush into this or feel pressured.

Losing your virginity is something that should happen only when you’re totally ready for it and you know exactly what could happen afterwards, not just having a baby as a result but the emotional attachment that happens with the one who took your virginity. If he can’t really offer exclusiveness I don’t think you should go for it. You might end up feeling very attached to him and being told he still has his door open for other girls might really break your heart.
This is all my own personal opinion and you are going to do whatever you want in the end, but I hope you think this through carefully and know you’re more important than that.
-April