Hey there, as women, do you feel its disrespectful if your partner masturbates in front of you? Despite being fairly young, (both early twenties) my wife has a low sex drive and we dont have sex more then once a week, so i masturbate sometimes, alwaya in private. I'm wondering if its something i need ro hide or if say i did it in our bedroom and she saw if she'd be ok with it. I for one love the idea of her knowing im doing it. Any thoughts?

I can only tell you from my own personal experience what I think and feel, and I will. But I think it’s important that you talk to your partner about this and see where she stands and how she would feel about it all. Tell her that you don’t want to keep things from her or feel like you need to hide anything, so you were wondering how she would feel about you getting yourself off in front of her.
I had to come to terms with the fact that my man masturbates at least twice a day, sometimes more and that’s even with us having an active sex life. He masturbates to wake up in the morning and again to help himself fall asleep at night; the rush of endorphins help him wake up and fall asleep so I just had to accept it. Instead of just laying there and watching him get himself off, I would help him and include myself in it even if I was just bending over in front of him and letting him see me. There are things she can do to include herself in it or even use you masturbating to help get her going and then maybe it might lead to sex.

The big thing here is that you communicate with her and let her know how you’re feeling. You mentioned she has a low sex drive and that you two aren’t intimate often, if that’s something that bothers you then you need to talk with her about it and see if she’s willing to see if there’s anything that will amp up her sex drive. Just talk with her, be open and honest and respectful. That will help more than anything.
-April