Ok soooo me and my boyfriend have had "sex" about 4 times now. Each time it is very hard to get in and often just pops out because he curves right slightly. It feels like it cannot go in all the way and it is painful no matter how slow/what position. we have tried lube and no lube but i think it has to do with my vagina. Also, I bled each of those times, not like a period but there was blood after. Is there something wrong with my hymen or is my vagina to small for my boyfriend? HELP!

Just using lube isn’t enough, if you’re that tight and there’s issues with him being able to fit inside of you comfortably, then he isn’t taking the time to help get you ready and loosen you up. Women take more than just lube you know? We need to be worked up, stimulated and played with before our partners can just go shoving in.

He needs to take the time to go down on you, pleasure you with his tongue and his fingers or even buy a toy that will help loosen you up a little bit. Having your man stretch you out a little bit with his fingers or a toy before sex makes a world of difference, and being relaxed and fully into it also helps. If you’re tense and worried about it hurting before he’s even penetrated you, you’ll be even tighter and it will be that much harder for him to slide inside of you without discomfort.

Since he’s a little curved, you’re going to have to help him out and tell him when it hurts and when it feels good. Don’t be afraid to wiggle around a little, move your hips and find the right position that feels good for the both of you. If you’re shy and holding back, that helps nothing and the sex will be awkward and tense regardless. So be open with him, try new positions and don’t be afraid to explore each others bodies and just learn what feels good for one another.

But more than anything, I think you need some foreplay before sex to help get you going and make penetration a little more enjoyable for you. Don’t give up or get frustrated with each other, just communicate and have fun with each other. You’ll figure it out and will fit together perfectly and sex will be better than you know!
-April