Whenever my bf and I 69 I always find it incredibly difficult to concentrate on both my pleasure and his at the same time. If I concentrate on giving him good head I feel practically no pleasure myself, but if I focus on what he's doing it's like I completely forget what I'm doing and end up giving terrible head. Is this common? I would love to fix this somehow because it's a position we really enjoy.

It is entirely possible, yes. Sometimes people just can’t focus on two things at once without the proper training but that doesn’t mean you can’t try and change it around. It takes practice and pushing yourself past your limits you know? Just like anything you’re not so good at, it takes you putting in the time and effort to turn it around.

Next time you guys go to 69, clear your mind and tell yourself you’re going to enjoy yourself and make sure he enjoys himself as well. Focus on the way his tongue feels against your clit and let it feel good, but also focus on swirling your tongue around the tip of his dick and making him feel just as good as you. All it takes is some mental strength!
-April