So, I'm hella down for the dude I'm with & he wants to keep it way low-key. But I hella want to like, fuck rn. What do I do...

If he isn’t ready to have sex and be intimate like that, all you can do is wait for him to be ready and have patience. If you feel like you can’t wait and just really want to fuck right now, then you need to let him know and move on from it. You can’t pressure him or force him to be ready when he just isn’t.

I’ve always said that if you really care about someone and want to be with them, you’ll be patient and you’ll wait until they’re fully ready. If you push someone to try something before they really want to, it will taint your relationship and create trust issues. So you need to ask yourself if you’re willing to wait or if you need to move onto someone who’s down and ready to fuck as soon as you are.
-April