Sleep sex Q! My boyfriend and I live together, been together 4 years. He's a really heavy sleeper, and sometimes will pull me close, cuddle, say sweet things in his sleep. Recently, he's groped me in his sleep or even started rubbing me and fingering. He'll often wake up during and we'll have sex, but sometimes he'll go back asleep and not remember. His sex drive is usually much lower than mine. We have sex really infrequently, we both enjoy this though. Is this a sign of a larger problem? Thx💗

I don’t think it’s a problem at all! My husband will sometimes do the same thing, he’ll either roll over and start rubbing me in his sleep or he’ll start masturbating. It’s become quite common so I’m no longer alarmed by it, but at first I wasn’t sure what was going on. There would even be times we would have sex and he wouldn’t remember in the morning.

I think it’s simply his sex drive kicking in while he’s asleep and all that testosterone and horniness is coming out. You said you have sex infrequently so it’s possible he’s got a lot of pent up sexual energy that’s coming out at night when he’s most relaxed and free. I would talk with him about it, just see how he feels and what he thinks it might be. Talk it over as a couple, but I don’t think it’s hinting at any underlying issues at all.
-April