Hi. So I have a problem. I'm friends with my ex and we regularly talk on the phone. I've told him I don't want anything sexual between us anymore but he's not really respecting my boundaries. I don't know if he is doing it on purpose or not though. Anyway. Whenever I call him he masturbates while I'm talking. He just starts doing it even though I'm talking about casual stuff (last time it was about a shit movie I saw). It makes me feel very uncomfortabl. What should I do? Im not very brave rn.

You should tell him to stop being such a disrespectful asshole and then hang up. What he’s doing is absolutely not okay and you have to stick up for yourself and draw the line or else he won’t stop. You’ve clearly stated that you don’t want anything sexual between you two and he isn’t listening to what you want, so why should you even waste time on him?

He is your ex for a reason you know? Maybe you two need to cool it off on talking for a little while so you can actually get your head back on straight. I’m sure it isn’t easy to actually get over him fully and gain your confidence back when you’re talking to him often and he’s playing these little mind games with you.

I know it’s hard but you have to put your foot down and tell him you won’t put up with his shit. Just because he’s your ex doesn’t mean you owe him anything and most definitely don’t need to talk to him on the phone if he can’t respect a simple wish of yours. Please stand up for yourself and do something about it. You’ll be so much stronger and more confident for it.
-April