Hi guys, my boyfrnd and I have been together for 5 years. I have a problem: we haven't had sex for almost six months. I've told him I wanted to, but he never has time, feels tired, has something to do, cannt come to my house, has people staying at his apt, etc... the last time i asked for it what i got was "you want me to fuck you on the street?"he never kisses/touches me anymore. I try to but he pushes me away. The other day he took my shurt off but did nothing! We used to have sex once a week

I am so so sorry you’re going through this. It must be so frustrating to not get any real answers and to keep getting pushed away. I can’t say for sure, but it sounds fishy to me that he keeps coming up with excuse after excuse to not have sex. I can understand a couple weeks or a month because life gets crazy and stress happens, but to go six months is just crazy and you have every right to be upset right now.

I think you really need to talk to him about how shitty all of this is making you feel and how you’re starting to wonder if there’s more going on. It’s hard not to assume stuff like that when he’s so adamant to not have sex, and I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all by bringing this up with him again and telling him it’s to the point where you’re wondering if he even wants you anymore.

Don’t be afraid to be straight up with him and tell him exactly what you’re feeling. Sex obviously isn’t everything in a relationship but it is important on some level, even if it’s just feeling close and connected to your partner. Be sure to ask him if it’s anything you’re doing or not doing that’s preventing him from wanting to be intimate with you. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you get your answers!
-April