Hey guys! Just wanted to know if you had any tips or advice about friends with benefits? My friend and I have recently talked about becoming fwb and I don't really know what I'm walking into! Thanks

Hello! I’ve been in a couple friends with benefits situations myself and they both ended up working out pretty well. But everyone’s situation is different depending on the people themselves and how they’re able to handle just having sex with someone and not catching the feels for them. It’s hard to be intimate with someone and not like them, but it is entirely possible.

Just giving you background on my two experiences, the first guy I fooled around with was purely sexual on my end but he ended up liking me. I was fine with us only hanging out to smoke and fuck, but somewhere along the line it became more for him and we stopped fooling around for awhile, but ended up hanging out again later once he got over it. And the second guy was a reverse situation, I had feelings for him but knew he only wanted sex so I just pushed my feelings aside and didn’t really talk about it. We fooled around for a few months and he even cheated on a girl with me (I didn’t know they were together) and it wasn’t until I moved away that he admitted he did have feelings for me.

Both situations didn’t go bad or anything, there wasn’t a bunch of drama and it was amazing having someone to just chill and have sex with without all the extra stuff getting in the way. Even though there were feelings on one side in both situations, everyone involved was able to be mature about it and avoid any of the nasty drama that does happen sometimes in these situations.

If you think you can just have sex with him and be okay with that, I say go for it and have fun! You’re free to do whatever you want, but be careful and use your head. Get tested, use protection or birth control and don’t be afraid to back out if things start to get uncomfortable. You aren’t tied down or committed in a friends with benefits relationship and you’re free to say you no longer want to have sex if that’s what you’re feeling.

But most definitely talk about what each of you want if you both decide to go forward with this. There needs to be boundaries set, each of you needs to know what can and can’t happen etc. As long as there is solid communication and both of you knows what’s going to happen going into it, it should work out. Even if it doesn’t, at least you tried and went for something you wanted! I hope this helps.
-April